My husband Nick and I are high school sweethearts and have been married for almost 6 years. He was a football player and wrestler, and I was a cheerleader for both sports - very stereotypical, right? We’re ok with it :)
We married in October 2011, bought our first home in November 2012 and by summer of 2013, we were ready to start our family! Admittedly, it took a little work to convince Nick that we were ready. I remember, to ease his nerves a little, that “it could take a long time to get pregnant, so it’s not guaranteed it’ll work right away!” Obviously, that’s not what I was hoping for, but I had no idea how true that would end up being.
After over a year of trying, temping, ovulation tracking, and ultimately not succeeding, I decided it was time to get a professional involved. I contacted Generations Fertility Clinic and went into see Dr. Christina Broadwell. I’ll tell you right now that while nobody wants to be at a fertility clinic, Dr. Broadwell and all the nurses really made it a positive experience. We did a lot of testing on me, testing on Nick, and ultimately we found out that the only real option for us was IVF. That was hard for us to hear because IVF is difficult and very expensive, but it also has the highest chance of success, so we decided to go ahead with it.
If you’re not familiar with IVF, the general process goes involves me taking lots of medications (in the form of shots… lots of shots) in order to grow eggs. When the eggs are mature, they’re retrieved, fertilized, and then you wait to see which ones make it to the embryo stage. They transfer one embryo back, and freeze the rest.
It was a grueling process, and we were very hopeful that this beautiful embryo would be our first baby. But, it didn’t work.
It was so, so disappointing. But, we had 6 more embryos frozen and ready to be thawed, so there was hope. Thankfully, transferring a frozen embryo requires a much less intense process than the first time around. Yes, there are still shots, but not as many and there’s no retrieval procedure - they just thaw out an embryo or two and transfer them and that’s it!
So, 2 months after our failed IVF cycle, we started a new cycle called a Frozen Embryo Transfer. We decided this time around to transfer 2 embryos since the first time was unsuccessful. Transferring 2 embryos increases your chances of success. It also, not surprisingly, increases your chances of multiples. I wasn’t particularly keen on having twins because while 2 babies would be awesome, there are a lot more risks during pregnancy and that’s a bit scary. But after a lot of discussion, we decided that we were willing to take the risk.
Well, it worked! We got our very first positive pregnancy test ever 4 days after the procedure! We were thrilled! We went in a few weeks later for our very first ultrasound and found out that, yep, it was twins! However, the doctor doing the ultrasound had some concerns about the size of the embryos and basically told us that this pregnancy could go either way. That was so hard to hear. Their growth was behind schedule and that just made me a big ball of stress and worry for the next several weeks while we just had to wait and see.
We had a few good ultrasounds, but at 9 weeks we found out that both babies had stopped growing at about 7 weeks and no longer had heartbeats. It was terrible. It was heartbreaking.
If you’ve ever been through it, you know that miscarriage is devastating. Yes, it was early. But we had fought so hard to get there. We had made so many plans in our minds and hearts for our future children. They were due May 19th. We were going to have 2 beautiful little spring babies and they were ripped away from us.
After going through surgery and recovery, we decided that we wanted to try again as soon as we could. Many couples decide to wait a while to try again, but we’ve been trying for so long already, I just couldn’t wait any longer to keep moving forward. To be honest, I’m not sure how I would have handled another unsuccessful cycle, but I think my emotions didn’t let me think that far ahead. I was just determined to keep going and it was going to work.
On February 27th, we did our second transfer. Two embryos. Four days later, we again got positive pregnancy tests and I just had a good feeling. A few weeks later, our first ultrasound showed us that it was twins again! I didn’t care if it was one or ten babies in there, I just wanted them to look normal and they did!
So, here we are today. Our little boy and girl are growing perfectly, and at 24 weeks along, they are moving all the time! We decided to sell our first house and move closer to family because we are going to need all the help and support we can get. I asked Nicole to photograph Nick and I in our home before we were moved out so that we can always have those memories to take with us. Our first home was so special to us, and while we are sad it won’t ever be a part of our babies’ lives, we are excited to start a brand new adventure.
We’re getting settled into our new home and and just can’t wait to meet our little babies this fall.<3